October 8, 2025

The True Measure of Christians

A couple of weeks ago, a young man carried out a tragic act of violence that ended Charlie Kirk’s life. He was speaking to a group gathered on a campus in Utah, and in a moment his life was suddenly ended.

To be honest with you, I did not know much about Charlie Kirk prior to that moment. I had heard his name mentioned in political discussions, but that’s all I knew. Since his tragic death, there has been a flood of videos circulating from his dialogues and conversations on college campuses across the country. Some of what he said I fully affirm, and some of what he said disturbed me. Yet Charlie Kirk and I were united by our common faith in Jesus Christ. And regardless of whether I agreed with him or not, I mourn his tragic, brutal, public death.

In the days after his death, the already existent cracks of division within our society seemed to widen. Christian conservatives venerated Kirk’s memory, while some progressives seemed undisturbed by his sudden death. My social media feed became a firestorm of comments as people lobbed insults at one another based on how they had responded to this tragedy. Quite frankly, it became too much for me. I deleted all of my social media accounts because I found myself grieving the mean-spiritedness, the cruelty, and the disunity I saw from people I loved on both sides of the political divide.

I’ve been reflecting a lot recently on the letter to the Ephesians. This short epistle is written to a divided Christian community. We don’t know much about the historical context, but there seems to have arisen a dispute among Greek Christians and Jewish Christians. Though we only hear one side of the conversation, it’s clear that tensions were threatening to tear the Ephesian church apart.

Perhaps they argued about the time of the worship service. Maybe they had some theological disagreement. Or, like us, perhaps the news of the day was raising anxieties among them. But to all of their high-blood-pressured hearts, Ephesians says this:

So then, putting away falsehood, let each of you speak the truth with your neighbor, for we are members of one another. Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not make room for the devil. Those who steal must give up stealing; rather, let them labor, doing good work with their own hands, so as to have something to share with the needy. Let no evil talk come out of your mouths but only what is good for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with which you were marked with a seal for the day of redemption. Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:25–32)

Tenderheartedness. Forgiveness. Kindness. Graciousness. Sharing. Truth. Neighborliness. These are the qualities that are meant to distinguish God’s resurrection people from the rest of the world. The true measure of Christians is not whether we can avoid conflict; the true measure of Christians is how we behave when conflict arrives. Will we act like the rest of the world and write off those with whom we disagree? Or will we practice what we claim to believe—listening, forgiving, and striving for unity even in the midst of disagreement, strife, and conflict?

We are living in difficult days. Our politics seems to have eclipsed almost every other facet of our identity. And I understand that pull; I have my own convictions and beliefs about the proper role of authority in our world. But I am not ultimately governed by my political beliefs.

Tenderheartedness. Forgiveness. Kindness. Graciousness. Sharing. Truth. Neighborliness. These are the qualities that are meant to distinguish God’s resurrection people from the rest of the world.

At the end of the day, our hope is not in the success of a political argument or the dominance of one side over another. Our hope is in Christ, who “is our peace” and “has broken down the dividing wall of hostility” (Ephesians 2:14). If Jesus can reconcile Jew and Gentile, then surely, he can reconcile Democrats and Republicans, progressives and conservatives. The cross is not only about our reconciliation with God—it is about our reconciliation with each other.

So, my sisters and my brothers, in these days when anger burns hot and bitterness spreads fast, let us choose to live differently. Let us refuse the easy path of slander and division. Let us become people whose words give grace, whose actions reflect kindness, and whose lives bear witness to the God who forgives.

Because in the end, our unity is not built on agreement in all things—it is built on the One who holds all things together, even us.

Rev. Tyler Tankersley